If my father hadn’t died in April I doubt I’d be gardening today.
I had worked in the orchards of New Hampshire for years in my youth, and had even moved up to foreman my last couple of harvests at Moosehill Orchards in Londonderry. And I enjoyed every aspect of my experience of agriculture, from picking apples in late summer and fall to pruning in the dead of winter.
But gardening is different. It’s not merely about the math, and even when it is about the math, the element of self-expression is essential to gardening. When we talk about cultivation, we’re not just talking about the soil.
It’s like that line from Serpico: “If you love a man’s garden, you gotta love the man!” (And that goes for the ladies, too.) Truth is, you can tell a lot about a gardener from his garden.
Pop had a secret garden. Well, growing up we had a wooded lot, and pop didn’t garden at all. But when the kids all moved out, my folks bought a place in a new subdivision in one of those vast Indiana cornfields developers were converting wholesale into cookie-cutter suburbs during the housing bubble of the ’90s.
On one of my first visits to their new home, we stood in the driveway looking out over a vast, treeless lawn. And my father declared: “I’ll never have to rake another leaf in my life.”
He didn’t mind shrubs so much, and the next time I visited he’d planted a rather arbitrary hedge behind which was his secret garden, visible only from a big bay window that served as the breakfast nook. I’m not sure why it was such a secret. My father was a real man’s man — ex-Marine, motorcycle — maybe he thought gardening was for girls. I don’t know.
He had designed the little plot on graph paper, meticulous equations and cryptic notations in the margins. It was his mini-Versailles, small but grand, a round bed precisely in the middle, flanked by four beds that looked a little like fleurs-de-lis. Mostly he’d plant whatever grabbed him on his sometimes twice-daily trips to Home Depot: pansies and petunias, marigolds and morning glories.
For years he tended his little garden and admired it from his nook as he took his morning coffee.
In October 2003 he was diagnosed with 4th-stage inoperable lung cancer. I moved back home that December to help my mother care for him. The garden at that point was like a haunted space. No one had had time to clean up in the fall, and mornings in the breakfast nook — well, you looked out on a pretty bleak picture, at least until the snow came.
It was a hard winter. My father went from bad to worse. Pneumonia further weakened him. As spring approached we opted for home hospice, and did all we could to make his last weeks as peaceful as possible.
As the snow melted, the garden strangely beckoned. I say strangely, because it was like something out of an old tale. Not knowing how I ended up out there exactly, one day I started digging. As if possessed.
Within a couple of weeks, I had the plot cleared, soil and mulch in the beds, and seedlings on the window sills. Soon the nook had taken on the look of a greenhouse, the morning light bringing the space to life.
I installed a simple fountain in the big round bed, the one feature this mini-Versailles had been missing, with plumbing running round the side of the house. My father was (I like to think) quietly in awe of this engineering feat. Every morning I would wheel him out to the nook and he would command me to “turn on the fountain!”
With pleasure.
That was one of the greatest joys of my day. Both of us looking out over his secret garden — our secret garden — listening to the trickle of the fountain and talking nonsense.
Gardening was a revelation to me. It was a gift my father gave me that allowed me to give back to him.
Since then I’ve bumbled along, following my whims where gardening’s concerned, listening to friends, trying various methods and plants with mixed success, and enjoying every minute in my garden — a plot in the storied Fenway Victory Gardens which I’ve tended for seven years now.
In 2010 I was elected President of the Executive Board of the Fenway Garden Society, a nonprofit with over 300 active members responsible for the stewardship of over seven acres of parkland along the Emerald Necklace in the heart of Boston. We boast close to 500 garden plots, an ADA-compliant Accessible Garden, and a Teaching Garden open to all who want to learn about urban gardening.
This blog is an extension of my enthusiasm for all kinds of gardening, and my desire to share that enthusiasm with others. I hope you’ll join me here and in the Fenway, and that we can grow together!